You can do it

I find there is always a way. It is like thinking outside the box. If the front door is locked, maybe you can enter through the back door. Maybe a window? There is a way. Have this mindset and find the way. There is hope and there is a way in. It looks impossible. Others want to discourage you…maybe if you succeed you show their failure of giving up. See their lack of objectivity….maybe? Keep going and find your way.

Maybe it does not to be done all at once and can be chipped away at little by little? Maybe? You can do it.

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All we can do

Sometimes life is very hard. Today I am tired. I feel like pulling the covers over my head and crying. Am I going to do this? Of course not.

We are champions. We go on when the going on is tuff. In my own way, I know how you feel. Someone said to me once, you do all you can do and God will do the rest. I do this everyday, even when I want to cry.

Let’s think about it. We all have challenges. For me, my walking is difficult. My balance is bad. I hold walls when I walk. My writing is like a child’s. I get very tired. BUT am I going to make it…you bet. Our spirit is strong. Don’t listen to the little voices of defeat in your head. This voice belongs to your enemy. I say to this voice…No thank you and continue on. Do I get tired…of course, BUT am I down and out…no way. Keep your chin up there is still another round for you to win. Go get em champ!

There was a 90’s song by Wilson Phillips…One More Day. The song expressed the same idea…go on for one more day and things will go your way. Hold on for one more day.

You Can Do it.

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Maybe?


I was talking to one of my best friends last night. She is in her 80’s. I am in my 40’s. We became friends about 17 years ago. What brought us together? Star Trek

I always find she has wisdom. She always knows the answer. She is easy to talk to and always has valuable thoughts. She also knows me. It helps.

We talked about the importance of supportive companions. We talked about a friend who is lost. We talked about the importance of purpose. I am deeply tired. She feels I am deeply tired because I am in the middle of great responsibility and great purpose. It is kind of like hopping on rocks. I am deeply tired in between the rocks. The rocks to me are times when I must be up and ready to go. I can not explain it. Maybe I will myself out of my funk so I can go and get things done? I know others are depending on me. Maybe this is what I do? Maybe?

 

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value multiplied

I often think…good thing I do not buy their bunk. If I believed society, I’d be a useless person crying in the corner. I know I am valuable, so are you. Others will try to convince you that they are better maybe than you or you need them and would fail without them or you are less than as a person. Maybe? Love is kind. Love is not conditional. Think about it.

Maybe you are better than you think you are. Maybe you are a welcome treat or surprise for someone. Maybe God created you as you are to teach someone.

Value is in the eye of the beholder, like beauty. Everyone can do something. Find your something. Find your value. It is there. Just find it.

Society does not care if you find it. It might be preferable if you do not, then you will fall in line with society’s teachings. Everyone is buying and selling for their reason. Are you buying what they are selling?

As I tell my Sunday school kids, everybody can do a little and it adds up. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Find your value. It is there. Just find it. All your efforts and others add up….value multiplied. Just find your value. It is there. Just find it.

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The right answer

I read this today and decided to share it with you…
1976 Seattle Special Olympics. Nine young competitors, all mentally or physically challenged assembled at the starting line for the 100 yard dash. At the sound of the gun, they all started running for the finish line – all except one little boy, who stumbled and fell and began to cry.
One by one, the other children stopped and looked back. Then… each one of them turned around, walked toward the little boy, and gathered around comforting him. A little girl leaned down and kissed his skinned knee, saying, “This will make it better.”
All nine children stood up arms linked, and walked toward the finish line together.

We learn the basics of kindness and humanity when we are young. These children were taught it. They knew the right answer because they were taught it. We all know the right answer and then spend the rest of our life unlearning it and then defending our positions. ???

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Your Strength

If you stink at math, would you consider being a mathematician? If you hate English, would you like to be a writer?

Everyone has their God given gift. Everyone has their strength. Did you ever say…I’m really good at that! There is your gift.

I often say…good thing walking is not my best ability. Well,  my gift is writing or communications. I can listen. I was trained at Rutgers. I’ve worked on undergraduate and graduate degrees there. I’ve taken communication courses, English and public speaking. I knew my gift in high school.

We all have gifts. What is yours?

Work toward strengthening your gift. Your gift fits nicely into the puzzle of life. You are needed. You are important. Your gift is needed.

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Choices

My Sunday school’s class today was about Making Choices. Good or Bad. The lesson was… Good brings you closer to God. Bad takes you further away.
This was a great educational lesson for them and a great teaching tool for me. When 2 kids started talking in the back of the room to each other, I acknowledged them and said…Talking while the teacher is teaching. Is this a good or bad choice? The class replied BAD CHOICE. The kids who were talking stopped.
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Position of helplessness

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Yesterday, I was very sad. I did not know why. About a hour or 2 later, I realized it. I was put in a position to feel needy, helpless. Now, I try to be independent.

I am not stupid. I realize my husband does a lot and takes care of things that are too much for me. I try to do all that I can. As a woman in a scooter, I try not to let it stop me. I open my own doors. I do everything I can. I realize if I do all I can…God will do the rest.

Yesterday, I was at Sunday school. I had a small dry erase board that I was going to use as a blackboard. There are no longer blackboards in the classroom. Now, there are smartboards. We can not write on them. Using the dry erase board, I can achieve my purpose and  not have to get up.

I was told yesterday that I could not hide the dry erase board in my classroom. It had to go upstairs. I no longer walk stairs, so everytime to use it I’d have to depend on someone else to get it for me. This took away my independence and this upset me. I felt very helpless.

Today, I got on the phone and said…if I can not keep the dry erase board in the classroom, I will carry it on my scooter every Sunday. I will have it with me when I need it. I do not like being put in a position of helplessness. I refuse to be put in this position.

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Seesaw of emotions

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Where you ever right before? Stupid question, right? How did it feel when you were right?

This is why others judge you. They want this feeling of being right. People think being right is limited. They think … if they are right, others are wrong and they want that feeling of being right and they can deprive others of being right. Maybe they want the feeling of being better than you and this might do it. It is a very limited thought process that a lot of people have. It is a facade of thoughts and happiness. Any feeling of joy stolen from this process is short lived.

This is an extreme example of wanting to feel better, so someone will make others feel worse.

There was a 10 year old boy who used to pick on other kids younger than him. I stopped him many times from acting this way and I wondered why he did this. I then found out he did this action. He pee peed his pants when he was younger and the other kids made fun of him when he was little for this behavior. SO, nowadays he made fun of little lids because I guess this made him feel better.

I call this the Bully Syndrome.

Life seems to be a seesaw of emotions. People think others have to be on the bottom so they can be on the top.

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Empowerment

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I am in a wheelchair scooter and I usually open my own door to go into stores or places. I held the door open for a walking person the other day. Someone said to me yesterday, “let me hold the door for you.” I thanked them and replied…people like you are not always around to hold the door open SO I usually open my own doors. It is a good answer. The truth is I like opening my own doors.

For me, doing this action myself is empowering. I do not have to sit and wait for someone to hold the door for me. I can do it myself.

Maybe for you the door is challenging, find your empowerment somewhere else. Make it fit for you. The door is not the answer. The empowerment is the answer. Do what you can do. Reach up and achieve more. Stretch a little. Everyday I believe in doing the best I can. If I’m tired, rest is important for me. If I can achieve something each day, I can achieve lots- little by little. Again…it all adds up. Forward actions add up!

The answer is do what you can do. Stretch little by little. It all adds up.

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